Making the most of your gifts

Making the most of your gifts

“Sometimes we have to soak ourselves in the tears and fears of the past to water our future gardens.” ― Suzy Kassem

What are they?

Your most beautiful gifts (to the world).

The thing is, our inner compass defines our outer world, but when that is defined, mostly, by what others tell us — e.g. “Are you sure?”, “You might fail” or “I wouldn’t” — is it any wonder we end up doing the same things as everyone else.

To be clear. This isn’t an ego trip. If anything, it’s a self-examination riff.

If you’re willing to go within, remember that a blank sheet of paper is far more beneficial than thinking you have all the answers.

Start there, and the world really is your oyster.


Showing up

Showing up

“We have the choice of two identities: the external mask which seems to be real…and the hidden, inner person who seems to us to be nothing, but who can give himself eternally to the truth in whom he subsists. (295)”Thomas Merton, New Seeds of Contemplation

I’ve never asked much of other people, other than to show up as they truly are.

How hard can that be?

No I mean it.

How hard can that be?

But nearly everyone is scared to death.

Of course, reading that last line back, it makes no sense. They’re not scared to death, rather they’re scared of unknown consequences. When I say unknown, I’m sure they (and you) perceive of something, but it’s mostly mind games as opposed to actuals.

In saying this, I’m not holding myself out as some exemplar — hell, I’ve made a bucket load of mistakes in thinking all people wanted was the real me — but the longer you negate true self, the worse life becomes.


Well, for a start, you lose touch with your soul and things then begin to die. But day to day what it means is you don’t know who you are. You think you do but it takes very little for you to be blown off course and you’re immediately answerable to your inner demons that keep you pinned to the floor.

In coaching clients, I often ask them, “How would you feel if you knew you couldn’t fail?” and I’m often met with silence. But then again, why would anyone think that they had to fail in the first place simply for being who they truly are?

In the end, all of this is a choice and one you either care enough about to face and overcome or you don’t. I can’t say which side of the imaginary line you’ll decide to walk but I do know the longer you leave it to embrace your shadow and light, the more likely it is you’ll give up on life and living into true self.

We’re not in control

We’re not in control

“Wisdom is knowing I am nothing,
Love is knowing I am everything,
and between the two my life moves.”Nisargadatta Maharaj

So much is written about a life well planned. Hell, I’ve been part of and consumed by the Tribe.

But what if…you weren’t in control?

What if your life was already ordered? Or, to put it another way, you’ve no free will or choice.

Radical, eh!

But think about it. How many of the decisions you made were in or under your control? How many decisions turned out precisely the way you envisaged?

Of course, you might think this point — and many more I’ve raised — complete lunacy, but in the end you’re either drawn to something or you’re not. As to how you arrive at that position, who truly knows.

PS. Imagine, even in times of crises, how life would be different if you “went with the flow” rather than resisting everything that wasn’t to your assumed liking.

Listen to what’s really going on

Listen to what’s really going on

“With me, illusions are bound to be shattered. I am here to shatter all illusions. Yes, it will irritate you, it will annoy you – that’s my way of functioning and working. I will sabotage you from your very roots! Unless you are totally destroyed as a mind, there is no hope for you.” ― Osho

Listen to your speech, your inner voice, your body and, most of all, other people.

What’s really going on?

An all-consuming dream?

In case you’ve not noticed, we live in a dualistic world — subject (us) and object (out there).

It divides everything including and most damaging of all our connection with faith. Not the faith you normally think of, but the faith to know that in oneness there’s happiness, bliss and a deep sense of connection.

And sure, you can go seeking it (all you like) but the truth is that you’re part of it, and it’s part of you.

Emptiness is form.

Form is emptiness.

At the risk of this message being perceived as far too abstract, it’s a case of examining your experience, deeply. I don’t mean to watch your thoughts or even get beneath them. No, to examine what it feels like…to be.

But when you’re fed “7 Tips”, success, material wealth and the historical path to a better or near same future, why on earth would you look within for the answers?

You won’t.

The trouble is in ignoring what’s looking you in the face, you’ll find that no amount of success will give you what you want. Oh sure, it will for a while but it never lasts.

Am I talking liberation? Possibly. But I’d like to think that when the me gets out the way, everything and no-thing looks and feels entirely different. (If it’s possible to perceive or conceive of anything.)

Wake up

Wake up

“Why are you unhappy? Because 99.9 percent of everything you think, and of everything you do, is for yourself—and there isn’t one.”Wei Wu Wei

It’s certainly the case that, in later life, we come to see that so much of what we took for granted turns out to be false.

And yet, and here’s the kicker, we do nothing to address the situation.

In truth, there’s nothing to overcome. If anything, we need to look within and examine our assumptions, our supposed truth and, most of all, the social conditioning we took as read.

Some people do, but cry foul as soon as they pierce the veil, knowing, most likely, that they’ll then have to confront a life wasted.

But what if I told you didn’t need to do anything. I don’t mean to sit still ad infinitum but to examine your own experience and understand or appreciate that beneath all that assumed knowledge and wisdom, you’re already whole — dare I say perfect.

It would be nice to think there’s a process but there isn’t. There’s just an acknowledgement of what is.

Do that and see what reveals itself.



The gift of life

The gift of life

“The root of all desires is the one desire: to come home, to be at peace.”Jean Klein

Life’s amazing.

If it’s complicated, it’s because we fail to accept what is.

That’s not an excuse for doing nothing, but if you look hard enough at what’s in your gift, you’ll quickly realise that you’re not in control.

Too often we go to sleep on everything life has to offer. Not a bushel of trophies, labels or awards but the brilliance of life connected at the deepest level.

Of course, you might think you’re moving in that direction, but no movement is necessary: stand on your own two feet, and you’ll understand what I mean.

100 Words

100 Words

So what did you think to my experiment writing 100 words for a week?

Too short?

Too long!

Wrong themes?

The thing is when the ‘me’ drops out, there’s not much to talk about — phew.

No, I’m serious.

When I look back on my writings, it’s all invested in the ‘me’ story. You know the one that wants more.

In the beginning, I wanted to only write poetry. Perhaps true self was on to something (or no-thing) but there’s a part of me that feels that’s where I should be spending my time.

Let’s see.

I suppose what I’m really saying is the inexpressible is hard to put into words. The formless given form — how very Zen.

In the end, the only way I’ll know is to sit down and write, and wait to see what, if anything, shows up.

Enjoy your weekend.